Cats are also wonderful animals. They are friendly and quite conscious in every act. Prior to buying cats as pets, it is advised to learn about their behavior and nature. They do have some behavioral issues like using the litter box, biting, being destructive with their claws, and excessive attention seeking problem. Always remember that cats are not at all bad in behavior, they are just uninformed a little in their nature and need care given to them. You must try to solve their behavioral problems one by one so that your pet cat does not feel confused and frustrated. Here are some most referred to behavioral issues in cats:
Attention-Seeking Behavior:
Cats do have attention-seeking behavior as well as increased vocalization when together. The causes of these things may differ from one cat to another like emotional problems, physical pain, excessive punishment to the cat, and so on. If they are suffering from Rippling Skin Disorder, this may also result in howling in the night hours.
Feeling Aggressive Towards Other Cats:
When you have cats in pairs or own more than 2 cats at home, it may result in fights between them. In case the aggression is continuous and active between cats, it will turn out to be ugly and you will have to interfere. The aggressive behavior between cats may occur because of some fear, redirected ruthless behavior, or due to some territorial issue.
Aggressive Behavior towards Humans:
The cats may feel angry towards people because of their master’s poor training in the early years, fear, love and many other factors. You must be able to deal with such behavior of your cat. Try to curb their scratching and biting activities.
Obsessive-Compulsive Behavior in Cats:
Just like human beings, cats can also involve themselves in obsessive-compulsive behavior. They will show such behavior in acts like feeling hypertensive, wool sucking, fur pulling and extreme licking. If you will understand the cause and will try your best to eradicate the problem, this will ensure speedy recovery of your cat.
Destructive and Harmful Chewing by Cats and Kittens:
Destructive chewing by cats is undesirable, first, because of the potential of danger to the cat, and second, because of damage to family valuables. Causes of destructive chewing by cats can range from teething in kittens to curiosity or boredom, and even because of a nutrient deficiency.
Destructive Scratching by Cats:
Are you troubled by harmful clawing by your cats? Please don't consider Draconian measures such as declawing a cat. There are a number of ways you can keep your cats' claws happily engaged in legal clawing with these articles and aids, while protecting furniture and carpeting. Look into getting a scratching post or tree.
Cat Urine Problems:
Inappropriate elimination (litter box avoidance) is the number one reason cats are surrendered to shelters. By eliminating physical causes, such as urinary tract infections, then targeting other common reasons for litter box avoidance, you can help your cat overcome this undesirable behavior. Remember that cats don't like to use a dirty toilet any more than you would.
Shyness and Fear in Cats:
Is your kitty a "scardy-cat?" Shyness and fear stem from a number of causes, but can be overcome with gentleness and patience, as these tips explain. It is always important to allow your cat to set his own pace, and to be patient if his pace is slower than you had hoped for.
Stress and Anxiety in Cats:
While stress itself is not of behavioral origin, it can lead to a number of problems often considered behavioral, such as litter box avoidance or depression. When behavioral problems suddenly appear, savvy cat owners soon learn to first rule out signs of health problems, and next for stress factors, such as changes in the environment.
By: Derrick Anderson
8 Jul 2011
Religion is Advice
Religion is Advice
Ma `asyiral rahimakumullah Muslims ...Islam as a religion we love, religion blessed by God Almighty does not just invite someone to be good, but it also motivates a person to get other people to be good; remain on the right track and blessed God Almighty. Surely goodness which is also based on the existence of a good relationship with God, Book and His Messenger.Prophet endowed with abilities "ul Kalim` Jawaami "namely the ability to gather the meaning of the terms and includes many benefits and lessons editorial role in a short sentence,he once said to his companions about the religion. Hadith was later included in the book by Imam Muslim in Kitaab faith shohihnya precisely, so the word of the Prophet;
عن أبي رقية تميم بن أوس الداري أن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قال الدين النصيحة قلنا لمن قال لله ولكتابه ولرسوله ولأئمة المسلمين وعامتهم
"From Abu Ruqayyata Tamim bin Ad-Dariy Ausin, that Rsulullah PBUH has said:" Religion is advice ", we (the companions) said:" To whom? ", He replied:" To Allah, His Book, His Prophet , leaders of the Islamic ummah, and to all Muslims. "(HR.Muslim)Attendees rahimakumullah ...It turned out that in this hadith the prophet of Allah describes the nature of religion, namely the religion of Islam just by editors consisting of two words "Ad-Deen An-Anasiihah" religion that is the advice. The word "an-nasiihah" which comes from the word "an-nushu" which means something clean and good relationships. So if we say "al-` nashaha asalu "meaning that pure honey is free from a mixture of other materials. And when there is someone trying to sew her clothes are torn, then the work of the stretcher is expressed with the word "nashoha", then a relationship that is being advised by others who are dinasehatinya like a man who was repairing (sewing) shirt. Thus the word "An-Nasihah" were used to express a hope that both diingkan occur in people who take advice.
So when the friends heard the Prophet say religion is the advice then bereka asked, "advice to anyone", was the prophet of Allah mentions the many objects counsel; Allah, His Book, His Messenger, the leader of Muslims and all Muslims.Advice for leaders and people in general means that the good will of fate (which is advised) to the abrogated (who advised), as the sense that is often used to define advice. As for advice to God, the Book and the Prophet, he said according to the origin, namely the existence of harmonious relations. Where a Muslim who holds fast to his religion would have a good relationship with God, Book and His Messenger.
So who is counsel to Allah is faith in Him, worship without interfering with the activity of idolatry, sincere in doing any obedience to Him, menjahui all forms of disobedience, love and hate the thing because HE, supporting the goodness and good people and and vice versa. So if a Muslim cling to these values will return kepadannya good benefits both globally and in the last world someday.
While his book Advice to the right of the Book of Allah is fulfilled; the Qur'an, with the belief that the Qur'an kalamullah, the greatest miracle among miracles, miracles are never given to the apostles, as a guide and light . It also confirmed the news and carry out the law. So a Muslim who cling to their religious values will melakukakan the following things: read and try to memorize (keep) them, improve the quality bacaanya better, try mentadaburi content of its meaning, fulfilling the messages in it and trying mendakwahkannya.
As is the advice to His Messenger. Is faithful and justify what he carried, loved, obeyed him in obedience to him is part of obedience to Allah, learn and teach the history of his life journey to the next generation, attempts to emulate him and uphold the Sunnah.Ladies and blessed God ...What is meant by advice to the leaders, rulers and scholars included therein.Advice to rulers in essence is goodness dicanangkanya mendudung and otherwise alert them if it violates the values of truth; membantunnya order to uphold the values keadailan and try to maintain the integrity of people participate, support them in carrying out the correct rules and revise rules that are not appropriate. Moderate to scholars' then a good Muslim who will love and respect them, support units in the path of God, encouraging them to be able to warn the authorities when wrong, to give input and advice in a good way if they fall on the fault, because they are still human may be wrong.Point JAR called the Prophet is the advice to Muslims as a whole. In essence we are asked to have kepedulain to them not only on the affairs of the material but also on the non-material nature; directing them to perform their religious values, advising them to stay on the straight path, restore those who strayed from the path to the right path , give them a donation ideas if they need a good, encouraging them to dare to face life if they fall to despair. Some friends of the Apostle there is a saying: "if you want then I will swear in the name of Allah, the most beloved servant of God is that God loves them trying to get the servants of others, and seeks to be the servants of God's love, they wade through this life by continuing to give advice ".Ladies and blessed God
Thus this short sermon, hopefully we would all be persons who have a harmonious relationship with God Allah, The Book and His Messenger. We will be more concerned with people who are around us because we want to be good, as indeed they were also the same, but sometimes there who do not know carannya. Hopefully we can play a role in turning on the light guidance of their hearts, or make it more brilliant flame of light that is also capable of illuminating the other, illuminate the path that led up to the syurga HIS. May Allah swt ease our affairs well. Amen
by: badrut ap
The Myth of State Management
There seems to be this pervasive myth that is running throughout the field of NLP, in fact I’ve even seen it running rampant throughout the entire self help field in general. It’s one of state management, I’ve spoken to some people that swear that a person’s state (the way they feel) should always be controlled (meaning they should always feel good) and that if at any point in time it’s not then there is obviously something wrong with them. I’ve never heard a greater bunch of drivel. A person will never make it to a point where they are always in complete control of their state. It’s just not possible. Physiologically speaking it’s just not. We all do the best we can though and that’s admirable and something to strive for.
Quite often, from my experience the people that are coming to me with this state that they learned it from their self help gurus. I can guarantee you that these gurus are not in complete control of their states in just the way that they want them all the time. Furthermore, I’m fairly certain if given the opportunity the average person could entice any given guru to lose control of their state.
Don’t get me wrong managing your state (doing what you can to feel good) to the best of your ability is an admirable thing and it’s a great thing to do your best exert as much influence over how you feel as you can. And at the same time people need to move past the idea that some guru’s decrees should be taken as gospel. Sometimes it’s okay to be human. I have a friend that went to some personal development training company that shall go unnamed. And she was bragging to me how amazing their training was and at the same time how crazy these people were. She said that she was going to try to get me into one of their public speaking courses and that they just tear people to shreds BUT that just makes them better speakers.
At first I wasn’t interested in attending any of their programs but once she told me they were crazy all of a sudden she piqued my interest. I’ve met some of the biggest names in the field of personal development and I have conversed with some other really well respected and admired trainers in the field as well through email. I have not gotten any indication from any of them that it is absolutely necessary to be in control of your state at all times. If anything I’ve learned that doing such a thing is not possible. However what I have gotten from them is that they all do their best. That seems to be a good thing to follow.
By: Chris Cathey
Quite often, from my experience the people that are coming to me with this state that they learned it from their self help gurus. I can guarantee you that these gurus are not in complete control of their states in just the way that they want them all the time. Furthermore, I’m fairly certain if given the opportunity the average person could entice any given guru to lose control of their state.
Don’t get me wrong managing your state (doing what you can to feel good) to the best of your ability is an admirable thing and it’s a great thing to do your best exert as much influence over how you feel as you can. And at the same time people need to move past the idea that some guru’s decrees should be taken as gospel. Sometimes it’s okay to be human. I have a friend that went to some personal development training company that shall go unnamed. And she was bragging to me how amazing their training was and at the same time how crazy these people were. She said that she was going to try to get me into one of their public speaking courses and that they just tear people to shreds BUT that just makes them better speakers.
At first I wasn’t interested in attending any of their programs but once she told me they were crazy all of a sudden she piqued my interest. I’ve met some of the biggest names in the field of personal development and I have conversed with some other really well respected and admired trainers in the field as well through email. I have not gotten any indication from any of them that it is absolutely necessary to be in control of your state at all times. If anything I’ve learned that doing such a thing is not possible. However what I have gotten from them is that they all do their best. That seems to be a good thing to follow.
By: Chris Cathey
Relationship Development (page 1)
Introduction:
Man is a social animal. No one can lead a happy life without social relations. All types of relationships include sweet and sore. It is the way we perceive things which makes relations fruitful or harmful. There are certain things to be considered to make a fruitful relationship with others.
Self awareness:
Know your values-both positive and negative and accept them as it is. Knowing yourself is the first step towards a successful relationship. If you have poor self awareness, you are less likely to understand others. Understanding others is the key to successful interpersonal relationships and when you fail to do so, your relationship also fails.
If you have a better understanding of yourself, you will be able to accept your mistakes and correct them. Also, if you know your limitations, you will be able to accept the mistakes of others. Accepting self and others is an important thing in relationships.
Value clarification of others:
Understanding others is also an important factor in relationship. Each individual is different and the behaviour and reactions of an individual is different from time to time. Keeping this in mind, will help us to cope with undesired behaviour from others.
There are certain aspects of others that we need to clarify. They are:
Belief: Have a better understanding of the pattern of belief others have. Some of the belief patterns are-rational belief, faith and irrational belief. Rational belief is believing something only in presence of an evidence. Faith is believing even when there is no evidence and irrational belief is believing something even when there is an evidence suggesting that it does not exist.
Misunderstanding is common in relationships. The survival of a relationship during misunderstanding is largely depended on the belief patterns of individuals.
Attitudes: Each individual have unique attitudes towards things related to them. A person will have a positive attitude towards something while having negative attitudes towards other things. It is important to clarify the attitudes of your partner (in a relationship)towards things related to your relationship. When there exist a difference in attitude towards certain important things in life, between the partner, it is necessary to understand and accept the attitudes of him/her and adjust with it. This adjustment does not mean that you have to change your attitude, but accept the attitude of your partner.
Values: Every individual have an internal value system developed early in childhood. This value system changes rapidly as a person matures and have experiences of life. It is depended on the value system of family, culture, religion and many other factors. Understanding a person’s value system is inevitable in determining the extend of a relationship. We all expect our partner to be loyal, honest and having good values and morals.
Emotions: Emotional response of an individual is also unique and is depended on the external factors also. Certain emotional response may be unacceptable for us but understanding the emotional response of an individual help us to understand the reasons behind such behaviour and adjust accordingly.
By: Shimil Varghese
Man is a social animal. No one can lead a happy life without social relations. All types of relationships include sweet and sore. It is the way we perceive things which makes relations fruitful or harmful. There are certain things to be considered to make a fruitful relationship with others.
Self awareness:
Know your values-both positive and negative and accept them as it is. Knowing yourself is the first step towards a successful relationship. If you have poor self awareness, you are less likely to understand others. Understanding others is the key to successful interpersonal relationships and when you fail to do so, your relationship also fails.
If you have a better understanding of yourself, you will be able to accept your mistakes and correct them. Also, if you know your limitations, you will be able to accept the mistakes of others. Accepting self and others is an important thing in relationships.
Value clarification of others:
Understanding others is also an important factor in relationship. Each individual is different and the behaviour and reactions of an individual is different from time to time. Keeping this in mind, will help us to cope with undesired behaviour from others.
There are certain aspects of others that we need to clarify. They are:
Belief: Have a better understanding of the pattern of belief others have. Some of the belief patterns are-rational belief, faith and irrational belief. Rational belief is believing something only in presence of an evidence. Faith is believing even when there is no evidence and irrational belief is believing something even when there is an evidence suggesting that it does not exist.
Misunderstanding is common in relationships. The survival of a relationship during misunderstanding is largely depended on the belief patterns of individuals.
Attitudes: Each individual have unique attitudes towards things related to them. A person will have a positive attitude towards something while having negative attitudes towards other things. It is important to clarify the attitudes of your partner (in a relationship)towards things related to your relationship. When there exist a difference in attitude towards certain important things in life, between the partner, it is necessary to understand and accept the attitudes of him/her and adjust with it. This adjustment does not mean that you have to change your attitude, but accept the attitude of your partner.
Values: Every individual have an internal value system developed early in childhood. This value system changes rapidly as a person matures and have experiences of life. It is depended on the value system of family, culture, religion and many other factors. Understanding a person’s value system is inevitable in determining the extend of a relationship. We all expect our partner to be loyal, honest and having good values and morals.
Emotions: Emotional response of an individual is also unique and is depended on the external factors also. Certain emotional response may be unacceptable for us but understanding the emotional response of an individual help us to understand the reasons behind such behaviour and adjust accordingly.
By: Shimil Varghese
Relationship Development (page 2)
Needs: Clarify the needs of your partner. All types of relationships are to be mutually beneficial. The unmet needs of an individual are met during a relationship. This is what makes a relation meaningful. Never hesitate to help your partner. The beauty of relationship is in understanding the needs and fulfilling it even before asked.
Conditions essential to development of a relationship
Rapport: Rapport means the exchange of ideas or communication. Good communication skills are necessary in relationships. Communication helps to clarify the values, understanding each others, identifying the needs of others and to develop trust.
Trust: Trust is an important factor in a relation. We open our heart to people whom we trust. Be honest in actions and conversations. You can say your opinions openly, but with respect to other’s feelings. Criticism should be in such a way that it must help the person to understand own problems and solve them. Criticism arising from love is always in this type and that from selfishness is always harmful.
Respect: Give and take respect. Respect is one of the basic needs of an individual. Respect a person because he is a unique individual. Respect a person because he is another human being.
Genuineness: Artificial or formal talks will make your partner bored. Have some fun and genuineness in your relationship. If you have something to hide from your partner, you will naturally lose your genuineness and he/she will lose trust in you. Avoid anxiety because it will ruin the freedom and you will start talking formally.
Empathy: What is empathy? Empathy is the synchronized feeling with other. For e.g. If your lover had a family problem and she is experiencing depression you can react to it in many ways. One is feeling ‘Oh! Poor girl’ and another is ‘oh my God! I can’t feel better when she is suffering this much’. In the first reaction you have sympathy and in second one you have empathy. Empathy is actually experiencing the feeling of others as our own while in sympathy, we understand others feeling but do not experience it as our own.
Nobody likes sympathy from others. Empathy is a way of telling ‘I am with you’.
Phases of relationship development:
The pre-interaction phase:
As the name suggests, it is the time before two individuals meet each other but has planned for the meeting. This is the preparatory phase. Always remember, first impression is the best impression. Do not plan the conversation in advance. It will not work. Communication should come naturally. Plan for making a better atmosphere in which both of you will feel better.
Orientation phase:
Most of the people feel anxious on their first date. It is normal but do not allow the anxiety to take control over you. Moderate level of anxiety is helpful while uncontrolled anxiety ruins everything. Physical comfort is also important. Do not keep thinking what to say next and keep your mind in what you are saying and listening at present. Conversation is not a planned task. The continuity of a conversation comes from one matter to another which has a relationship between them and so on.
By: Shimil Varghese
Conditions essential to development of a relationship
Rapport: Rapport means the exchange of ideas or communication. Good communication skills are necessary in relationships. Communication helps to clarify the values, understanding each others, identifying the needs of others and to develop trust.
Trust: Trust is an important factor in a relation. We open our heart to people whom we trust. Be honest in actions and conversations. You can say your opinions openly, but with respect to other’s feelings. Criticism should be in such a way that it must help the person to understand own problems and solve them. Criticism arising from love is always in this type and that from selfishness is always harmful.
Respect: Give and take respect. Respect is one of the basic needs of an individual. Respect a person because he is a unique individual. Respect a person because he is another human being.
Genuineness: Artificial or formal talks will make your partner bored. Have some fun and genuineness in your relationship. If you have something to hide from your partner, you will naturally lose your genuineness and he/she will lose trust in you. Avoid anxiety because it will ruin the freedom and you will start talking formally.
Empathy: What is empathy? Empathy is the synchronized feeling with other. For e.g. If your lover had a family problem and she is experiencing depression you can react to it in many ways. One is feeling ‘Oh! Poor girl’ and another is ‘oh my God! I can’t feel better when she is suffering this much’. In the first reaction you have sympathy and in second one you have empathy. Empathy is actually experiencing the feeling of others as our own while in sympathy, we understand others feeling but do not experience it as our own.
Nobody likes sympathy from others. Empathy is a way of telling ‘I am with you’.
Phases of relationship development:
The pre-interaction phase:
As the name suggests, it is the time before two individuals meet each other but has planned for the meeting. This is the preparatory phase. Always remember, first impression is the best impression. Do not plan the conversation in advance. It will not work. Communication should come naturally. Plan for making a better atmosphere in which both of you will feel better.
Orientation phase:
Most of the people feel anxious on their first date. It is normal but do not allow the anxiety to take control over you. Moderate level of anxiety is helpful while uncontrolled anxiety ruins everything. Physical comfort is also important. Do not keep thinking what to say next and keep your mind in what you are saying and listening at present. Conversation is not a planned task. The continuity of a conversation comes from one matter to another which has a relationship between them and so on.
By: Shimil Varghese
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