"Know, Praise be to Allaah is not justified person takes every person to be his friend, but he should be able to choose the criteria for people who maketh friends, both in terms of its properties, temper, temperament or any other friends who could excite also in line with the benefits to be gained of friendship is it. There are people who are friends because of the tendency of the world, such as wealth, position or just happy to look around and can talk, but it's not our goal.
"If you're in the midst of a people so pililhlah people who balk as friends, and do not be friends with bad guys, so you will perish with him"
Women are a part of human life, so he would never escape from the patterns of interaction with others. Moreover, dominance feeling attached to him, make him a friend needed a place to complain, a place to exchange thoughts and deliberation. Various problems experienced life made him think that, ask for opinions, suggestions and advice of friends is something we need. So a friend is vital for life, who does not need friends in this life ..?.
But the Muslim woman is a woman who nurtured by faith and educated in Islamic interaction patterns. So the view of Islam is the barometer in choosing friends, because he was conscious, a good friend (shalihah) has a major influence in maintaining keistiqomahan religion. In addition shalihah friend is really true friends that will bring mashlahat and benefits. So in her social he would choose a good friend and shalihah, who really gives a sincere love, always giving advice, not cheating and show kindness.Due to mix with women shalihah and make it as friends always bring benefits and a great reward, it will also open hearts to accept the truth. then most of your friends would be an example to the others in morals and behavior lake. Like the phrase "Do not you ask someone in person, but ask his friend. because each person follows his friend ".
Departing from here that the Muslim woman is always required to be able to choose your friends, as well as social environments that will not add to her but piety and nobility of the soul. Verily Allah has also been suggested to choose a good friend (shalihah) and be careful of bad friends.
This has been exemplified by the Prophet through the expression:
"Truly a good friend parable (shalihah) and evil friend is like a perfume carrier and blowing fire blacksmith. Carriers may be sprayed perfume oils or fragrance that you menibeli from it or you will just smell it harmznya. While the fire blower blacksmith will probably burn your clothes or you will smell a bad odor from it ".
(Bukhari, Book Buyuu ', Fathul Bari 4 / 323 and Muslim book of Albir 4 / 2026) 1
From the clues religion, Muslim women will know that there are two kinds of friends.First, a friend who shalihah, he is like a fragrance carrier spreading fragrant aroma and fragrance. Both friends are ugly like fire blower blacksmith, who his side will be exposed to smoke, sparks or shortness of breath, because the smell is unpleasant.
So how good is the advice Bakr Abu Zaid ibn Abdullah, when baliau said, "Be careful of ¬ a bad friend ...!, Because actually it's like to imitate nature, and humans as a group of birds that they are given the instinct to imitate the other. So be careful to get along with people like that, because he would be damned, be careful because preventive efforts easier than cure ".
So smart-pandailah in choosing a friend, find someone who can help you to achieve what you are looking for. And can become closer to Rabbmu, can provide advice and guidance to achieve the goal muliamu.
Then see the details of your friend's friends-¬, because there are a variety of friends
• have a friend who could provide benefits
• there are friends who can give pleasure (delicacy)
• and there that could give primacy.
The first two types are fragile and easily broken due to lost causes. The third type, then that is true friendship. The existence of reciprocal interactions because each kokohnya virtues of both. However, this type is also difficult to find. (Hilyah Tholabul 'ilmi, Bakr Abdullah Abu Zaid halarnan 47-48)
It will never escape from the minds of the Muslim woman's heart is really aware of when choosing a friend, that man is like a mineral, there are good quality and there are ugly.Similarly, humans, as described Shalallahu'alaihi Wassallam Messenger:
"Humans are minerals such as gold and silver, the best among them in the days jahiliyyah is the best in the days of Islam if they understand. And the spirits are like soldiers who deployed the troops, who know each other will be familiar and the unknown will be shunned "(Reported by Muslim)
Muslim women who honestly just be in line with the women shalihah, cautious and noble, so it is not with just anyone and everyone he befriended, but he chose and see who his friends. Though indeed, if we look for or choose a friend who is really clean at all from the disgrace, of course we will not get it. However, if kindness is more than a bad trait, it is adequate.
So Shaykh Ahmad ibn 'Abdur-Rahman ibn al-Maqdisi Qudama or known by the name Ibn Qudama AlMaqdisi also give advice in choosing a friend: "Behold, Praise be to Allaah is not justified person takes every person to be his friend, but he should be able to select ¬ criteria-criteria that maketh man friends, both in terms of its properties, temper, temperament or any other friends who could excite also in line with the benefits to be gained from these friendships that. There are people who are friends because of the tendency of the world, such as wealth, position or just happy to look around and can talk, but it's not our goal.
There are also people who are friends because of the interests of the Deen (religion), dalarn this too there is because they want to take faidah of science and charity, because hope for glory or for help in a variety of interests. But, the conclusion of all the people who expected so friends should meet the following five criteria: She's smart (intelligent), good moral, not Fasiq, not a heretic and not greedy world. Why should they?, Because intelligence is a major capital, no kabaikan if friends with stupid people, because sometimes he wanted to help but actually hurt you. As for good moral person, it should be. Because sometimes people who cerdaspun when angry or controlled emotion, he will obey his desires. Then there is also good friends with someone smart but not berahlak. While people Fasiq, he had no fear of God. And whosoever was not afraid of God, then you will not be safe from the deceit and spite, he also can not be trusted. If expert heresy if we hang out with us feared would be affected by bad kebid'ahannya it.(Mukhtasor Minhajul Qasidin, Ibn Qudama p. 99).
"If you're in the midst of a people so pililhlah people who balk as friends, and do not be friends with bad guys, so you will perish with him"
Women are a part of human life, so he would never escape from the patterns of interaction with others. Moreover, dominance feeling attached to him, make him a friend needed a place to complain, a place to exchange thoughts and deliberation. Various problems experienced life made him think that, ask for opinions, suggestions and advice of friends is something we need. So a friend is vital for life, who does not need friends in this life ..?.
But the Muslim woman is a woman who nurtured by faith and educated in Islamic interaction patterns. So the view of Islam is the barometer in choosing friends, because he was conscious, a good friend (shalihah) has a major influence in maintaining keistiqomahan religion. In addition shalihah friend is really true friends that will bring mashlahat and benefits. So in her social he would choose a good friend and shalihah, who really gives a sincere love, always giving advice, not cheating and show kindness.Due to mix with women shalihah and make it as friends always bring benefits and a great reward, it will also open hearts to accept the truth. then most of your friends would be an example to the others in morals and behavior lake. Like the phrase "Do not you ask someone in person, but ask his friend. because each person follows his friend ".
Departing from here that the Muslim woman is always required to be able to choose your friends, as well as social environments that will not add to her but piety and nobility of the soul. Verily Allah has also been suggested to choose a good friend (shalihah) and be careful of bad friends.
This has been exemplified by the Prophet through the expression:
"Truly a good friend parable (shalihah) and evil friend is like a perfume carrier and blowing fire blacksmith. Carriers may be sprayed perfume oils or fragrance that you menibeli from it or you will just smell it harmznya. While the fire blower blacksmith will probably burn your clothes or you will smell a bad odor from it ".
(Bukhari, Book Buyuu ', Fathul Bari 4 / 323 and Muslim book of Albir 4 / 2026) 1
From the clues religion, Muslim women will know that there are two kinds of friends.First, a friend who shalihah, he is like a fragrance carrier spreading fragrant aroma and fragrance. Both friends are ugly like fire blower blacksmith, who his side will be exposed to smoke, sparks or shortness of breath, because the smell is unpleasant.
So how good is the advice Bakr Abu Zaid ibn Abdullah, when baliau said, "Be careful of ¬ a bad friend ...!, Because actually it's like to imitate nature, and humans as a group of birds that they are given the instinct to imitate the other. So be careful to get along with people like that, because he would be damned, be careful because preventive efforts easier than cure ".
So smart-pandailah in choosing a friend, find someone who can help you to achieve what you are looking for. And can become closer to Rabbmu, can provide advice and guidance to achieve the goal muliamu.
Then see the details of your friend's friends-¬, because there are a variety of friends
• have a friend who could provide benefits
• there are friends who can give pleasure (delicacy)
• and there that could give primacy.
The first two types are fragile and easily broken due to lost causes. The third type, then that is true friendship. The existence of reciprocal interactions because each kokohnya virtues of both. However, this type is also difficult to find. (Hilyah Tholabul 'ilmi, Bakr Abdullah Abu Zaid halarnan 47-48)
It will never escape from the minds of the Muslim woman's heart is really aware of when choosing a friend, that man is like a mineral, there are good quality and there are ugly.Similarly, humans, as described Shalallahu'alaihi Wassallam Messenger:
"Humans are minerals such as gold and silver, the best among them in the days jahiliyyah is the best in the days of Islam if they understand. And the spirits are like soldiers who deployed the troops, who know each other will be familiar and the unknown will be shunned "(Reported by Muslim)
Muslim women who honestly just be in line with the women shalihah, cautious and noble, so it is not with just anyone and everyone he befriended, but he chose and see who his friends. Though indeed, if we look for or choose a friend who is really clean at all from the disgrace, of course we will not get it. However, if kindness is more than a bad trait, it is adequate.
So Shaykh Ahmad ibn 'Abdur-Rahman ibn al-Maqdisi Qudama or known by the name Ibn Qudama AlMaqdisi also give advice in choosing a friend: "Behold, Praise be to Allaah is not justified person takes every person to be his friend, but he should be able to select ¬ criteria-criteria that maketh man friends, both in terms of its properties, temper, temperament or any other friends who could excite also in line with the benefits to be gained from these friendships that. There are people who are friends because of the tendency of the world, such as wealth, position or just happy to look around and can talk, but it's not our goal.
There are also people who are friends because of the interests of the Deen (religion), dalarn this too there is because they want to take faidah of science and charity, because hope for glory or for help in a variety of interests. But, the conclusion of all the people who expected so friends should meet the following five criteria: She's smart (intelligent), good moral, not Fasiq, not a heretic and not greedy world. Why should they?, Because intelligence is a major capital, no kabaikan if friends with stupid people, because sometimes he wanted to help but actually hurt you. As for good moral person, it should be. Because sometimes people who cerdaspun when angry or controlled emotion, he will obey his desires. Then there is also good friends with someone smart but not berahlak. While people Fasiq, he had no fear of God. And whosoever was not afraid of God, then you will not be safe from the deceit and spite, he also can not be trusted. If expert heresy if we hang out with us feared would be affected by bad kebid'ahannya it.(Mukhtasor Minhajul Qasidin, Ibn Qudama p. 99).
So a Muslim woman who truly knew and got a beam of religion, will not feel insulted due to hang out with women shalihah although lahiriyah, social status, clan level of the material is not level. The benchmark is the substance and not personality or appearance and any other property. "Intercourse with a person you are makes you one of those precious to them, therefore thou shalt not want to make friends with other than them".
Therefore it comes guidance of the Qur'an that calls it:
"And be patient with people who are calling ¬ his Lord early in the morning and expect keridhoan disenja day with him. And let not your eyes turn away from them because they expect the life of this world of jewelry. And do not follow a man whose heart We have given the neglect of Us, as well as the whims and desires and the situation was over the limit "
(Al-Kahf: 28)
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